relationships

Use People

Use people? It may sound a little selfish or a bit abusive to talk about using people, but hear me out.  This isn't using people to my advantage and to their disadvantage.  It's using people to mirror the lessons I need. I use people by asking them for help. I use people by asking them to call me out when I'm not on my path of doing what I say I'm going to do.

The Bully In Me

There is a lot of talk these days about bullies in school and bullying happening to teenagers.   Recently, I realized that I am one of the biggest bullies that I know.  Not to others, but toward myself. I'm a very kind person, and I don't think I bully anyone, other than the conversation happening in my head. That may be my ego, it may be my conscience, it could be the self-doubt in my head. I find often it is a one-way conversation coming from my ego, and it's often telling me: you never do this, you always do that, you should do this, you should do that, and there must be a better way.

Retiring

One of the goals for many people in life is to ultimately retire.  So what does that mean?  It means I don't have to go to work, that I don't have to answer to anybody.  It means I'm free to do other things.  Dan Sullivan, a great teacher of many entrepreneurs talks about the “retirement trick”.  When I retire, I'm going to do this, I'm going to do that.  I want time to do the “things” I want to do.  What I remember from Dan's lesson and exercise was to list out the “things”.