Use people? It may sound a little selfish or a bit abusive to talk about using people, but hear me out. This isn't using people to my advantage and to their disadvantage. It's using people to mirror the lessons I need. I use people by asking them for help. I use people by asking them to call me out when I'm not on my path of doing what I say I'm going to do.
There is a lot of talk these days about bullies in school and bullying happening to teenagers. Recently, I realized that I am one of the biggest bullies that I know. Not to others, but toward myself. I'm a very kind person, and I don't think I bully anyone, other than the conversation happening in my head. That may be my ego, it may be my conscience, it could be the self-doubt in my head. I find often it is a one-way conversation coming from my ego, and it's often telling me: you never do this, you always do that, you should do this, you should do that, and there must be a better way.
My middle school daughter had a bit of a meltdown last night. She was a bit overwhelmed with all the homework she had, and all the activities she's committed to. She got frustrated, got angry, and was ready to give up. One of the biggest lessons that I'm here to learn and teach is, it's okay to ask for help.
One of the goals for many people in life is to ultimately retire. So what does that mean? It means I don't have to go to work, that I don't have to answer to anybody. It means I'm free to do other things. Dan Sullivan, a great teacher of many entrepreneurs talks about the “retirement trick”. When I retire, I'm going to do this, I'm going to do that. I want time to do the “things” I want to do. What I remember from Dan's lesson and exercise was to list out the “things”.