BY BOB SHENEFELT
Being in a family is not easy. We don't have a choice with who our family is, at least not in this life. Maybe we choose our families, maybe not. It can be frustrating, because we live in close quarters. Maybe we feel safe enough to vent and show our anger and frustration. We often bring up that anger and frustration with each other. We often push each other's buttons. I honestly think we have chosen each other to be able to learn from one another. How do we do this?
First, to realize we are a family, and that's going to be that way for a long time, until I'm old enough to move out, or I go to school, or my kids are old enough to move out or go to school. So why not make the most of it, why not commit to each other that we got each other's backs? I still will often push my wife's buttons, push my kids' buttons, why? I'm not really sure. Yet, as I and we have committed to each other, and we learn how to flip it, it helps if one of the people in the situation who aren’t stuck in a moment, stuck in anger, fear, or frustration, just learns to flip it for the other person's (well-being?).
This morning, I woke up in the middle of the night and had a hard time going back to sleep. I was planning on getting up early and cooking my family breakfast. But I slept later than I wanted to, I got up, I was in a bad mood, why didn't I get up earlier, how come I couldn't go right back to sleep, but instead to take a deep breath, and this takes practice. And flip it to say, I can have breakfast with my family this morning.
Today, I did not have to rush off to work and when the kids came down, I was smiling rather than huffing and puffing, and they were in a better mood. I cooked them a great breakfast. I got everyone off to school on time. I helped out Sheryl, who normally handles the morning routine. I didn't want to flip it. And yet, flipping it at that moment was worthwhile for me and for my kids.
A wise person once told me, get out of the right side of the bed. Flipping it is often like getting back into bed and then getting out of the other side. It makes for a great day, so why not?
I’m Coach Bob
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